Ha ! No it isn’t.
When people say they can’t seem to meet members of the opposite sex, I think it is ridiculous.
What they really mean is they haven’t met anyone they fancy as a potential partner. There are a huge number of reasons for not so far having met a potential partner, starting with the ability to actually just meet a lot of people in the first place from which to have a pool of people to size up.
So, all anyone has to do is to get out there and meet a large number of different people, some of whom will be single and ‘in the market’. Others won’t be ‘in the market’ because they already have partners, but might be so dumbstruck by a new acquaintance, they leave existing partners and latch onto you and you them.
So, it is all about just meeting people ennit !
Therefore any activity, social or work, which involves exposure to the maximum number of people offers the opportunity to meet potential partners.
All you have to do is talk to them. That’s the process of sussing them out. Are they single; question one; what do they do for a living; question two …..
You know the sort of thing, sussing them out. As the cross examination proceeds, a decision is being made by both people whether they might want to become friends. And we all know where becoming ‘just friends’ can lead !
There was once upon a time a very clever device invented aimed at refining this process to speed it all up as much as possible and make it a bit more efficient.
It’s called ‘the party’ !
This is a great idea for meeting hordes of people in a short space of time. So, you can go to a half decent party, meet about a hundred people, chat to maybe half of them, come away after of two hours of intensive chatter and mutual cross examinations and maybe, if you’re lucky, an invitation or two to some more parties and a couple of people who want to keep in touch with you.
Ergo, your social circle is already expanding ! Simple really.
If you are a single unattached recluse (like me) stuck in a rut with absolutely no social life whatever, the chances of meeting a potential partner are virtually zilch.
So get out there and socialise or something.
Anything that involves meeting people will do – even bars. But while bars are a possibility, they are only a slight possibility because most people go to bars with their friends and chatter amongst themselves.
A single person grimly nursing a drink in the corner, is going to find it seriously difficult to break in to one of these chattering groups; and if they do, they can’t just go in there and say ‘ Hi, I’m a sad, lonely, bitter and twisted single person, desperate to make friends with anybody’.
Even if they don’t actually use those words, but butt in and say something cheerily, like, ‘Hi, I spend loads of time in this bar and I notice from what you were saying that you’re all new around here. Let me introduce myself ‘, the secret hidden body language you exude from every cell of your person still gives out the message loud and clear that you are a desperate, lonely has been who will do anything to smarm their way into someone’s -anyone’s – acquaintance.
So it not really a starter, is it ? Better go to that party instead, where the rules are all different. There, you are not only allowed to introduce yourself to complete strangers, but are actually expected to. In fact, if you don’t, you are likely to be thought of as a bit of an oddball.
As well as ‘the party’, any activity that involves meeting people is good. You could try getting out of bed in the mornings and going to work. That helps, sometimes. Being friendly and helpful in general to other people when you do meet them is always useful because they are then automatically inclined to invite you places – like the nearby Starbucks coffee shop to have a natter over a cup of coffee or something.
Get a hobby of some kind and dream up other ways of finding excuses to meet like minded people; it works a treat !
The only problem with all this, is that, if you are a sad, lonely, bitter and twisted single person, oozing envy at all those happy go lucky, cheerful couples, it will show.
So when you meet other single people, who are most likely to be vaguely similar, you will exchange bitter and twisted tales about each other’s lives explaining just why you are bitter and twisted because you are on you own.
So that’s the way both of you will stay – just endlessly exchanging hard luck tales of lonely single life.
Married people are always immensely more attractive to members of the opposite sex. When I was married I was constantly bombarded with endless unwanted propositions from even more unlikely bimbettes.
Now I’m middle age, sagging and single, oh and penniless, having had my finances completely trashed by rapacious, destructive former partners, I’m thoroughly bitter and twisted, reclusive and don’t even know where to begin my rehabilitation.
Any offers out there ?
Bimbettes not welcome.